Divorce is one of the most difficult experiences a family can go through. This is especially true if there are children involved.It is important to realize that just as no two people are alike, no two families are alike. Therefore, there are several strategies that might prove helpful to you or your family during a difficult transitional time in your life. Here are a few tips to help foster healing:
1.Encourage Honest Discussions
If there are children involved in the divorce, it is always best to encourage open discussions in an environment that is calm and safe. Each member of the family should feel as if he or she has the freedom to express unique feelings and concerns about the matter. Children should have the opportunity to address each other as well as the parents. During these conversations, it is important that adult conflicts are left off the table, and the main focus be meeting the needs of each family member during the change.
- Be Open to Resistance
It is very likely that your children will show signs of despair, anger, confusion, or any combination of emotion during this time. The best quality to exhibit in this case is patience. Be open to listening to all of your child’s concerns and worries. Just as your world is changing, so is your child’s, and often he or she is not able to see immediately the bigger picture.
- Focus On Consistencies
Because so much will be changing in the upcoming months, especially if there will be new spouses involved, be sure to focus on the aspects of family life that will not need to change. For example, if both parents will continue to play a role in the child’s life, be sure to emphasize the importance of quality time together. Your child will slowly adapt your positive attitude on the matter and with the right techniques, the difficulties of divorce can be handled in a way that is beneficial to the family.