It is difficult to navigate your family through a divorce without leaving someone scathed and hurting. It is, however, not impossible, and with the proper preparation parents can make a divorce into a positive event rather than something catastrophically devastating for their children. Ease the transition for adults and children alike by reading up on advice such as the following.
3 Quick Tips
First, keep in mind that every family is different. No two people are completely the same, and when more than two people are involved, things can sometimes get messy, and even more quickly can they get ugly. Staying patient, calm, and flexible throughout can help smooth the path towards building a new future together as a different family. Continue reading
Small children understand less about divorce and might not be able to communicate their fears as well as older children. The age a child is at when his or her parents divorce influences response and understanding. Here is a brief summary of what children comprehending the years before grade school and how parents can make the event less upsetting.
Babies can sense tension and may become petulant, anxious and have tantrums if it persists. Developmental delay or regressions might also occur in some cases. Maintain stability by:
- Sticking to a consistent schedule
- Doling out extra hugs, kisses and reassurances
- Providing access to security stuffies and favorite toys
- Asking trusted family and friends for help
- Getting lots of rest so you can be on your parenting game
The teen years are tough enough without going through a major trauma, so it is important to recognize the impact divorce can have on a teenager when the storm hits. Here are a few ways to help your teen cope with the divorce of their parents.
Understand that a teenager needs time to process what is going on and will have a full range of emotions to go through. Be patient and allow them the opportunity to express themselves. Give them the flexibility of swinging from one emotion to another as they figure out how to deal with their new reality with the assurance that they are loved unconditionally. Continue reading
Divorces are often hard for everyone, especially children. With so much pain, emotion and frustration involved in the situation, it is easy for parents to lose sight of how their actions can affect their children. Here are a few ways to minimize the effects of divorce on children.
Divorces are often life changing situations where the lines of communication often break down between all parties that are involved. In nasty divorces, the parents tend to yell and argue with each other, and the children tend to become angry and withdrawn. Instead of resorting to negative behavior in an effort to make yourself heard, try communicating in a normal and positive manner. Both parents have to make a conscious effort to restore the lines of communication so that their children do not blame themselves or their parents and resort to holding their emotions inside. Continue reading
Every year, parents of thousands of children get divorced. Divorces are hard on children, often making them question everything they know. Some children will not react right away, instead letting their stress out through other actions, such as not sleeping or misbehaving at school. You can assure children that their feelings are normal and valid, and tell them to talk with you at any time. But as stress builds, there are ways to mitigate it. Here are three tips for preventing and dealing with your child’s stress. Continue reading
Going through a divorce can be a stressful and emotional time for adults, but child can be equally effected. Parents often want what is best for their kids, and guiding them through the process can be one of the best ways to offer support when it is needed most. In order for children to really cope with a divorce, they need parents to help them understand the huge life change that they are experiencing. Continue reading
Divorce is never a simple thing. With years of pent up anger, guilt, shame, and myriad other emotions brewing between two people who once thought that they would spend the rest of their lives happily together, divorce is often one of the most stressful and traumatic events in a person’s life. When you add children into the mix, things get even more complicated. While the two consenting adults may be better off apart, children rarely are and don’t get a say in the matter. This can be a particularly damaging situation for children as they search for answers to why their parents no longer love each other. Continue reading
Sometimes we don’t have the words for what we are feeling. And other times there is so much emotional turmoil that we can’t think straight. Having books that express what we need to say but can’t can be incredibly helpful. Reading the words of others who have been through what we’re going through now can be immensely therapeutic.
The following list of books might be useful for parents who are going through a divorce. They offer not only personal support but also support in parenting children during such a tumultuous time. Continue reading
When you’re in the middle of a divorce, it might be hard to also tend to the emotional needs of your children. They are certainly going to feel the effects of the separation, especially if the divorce between you and your spouse is a tumultuous one.
There are some basic tips to keep in mind when relating to your children, and they are listed below. However, this article will also address the ways that you can seek outside assistance and it will provide some of those resources.
But first, you should remember the following:
1. Stay consistent with your children’s schedule as best you can. If you were driving them to school, do your best to keep it that way. The less interruptions children experience in their schedule the better. Continue reading
There are rare occasions when children need to take it upon themselves to get the care they need. Perhaps they feel as though their parents aren’t meeting emotional their needs, and this can be especially true for children whose parents are going through a divorce.
One way to begin to get the emotional and psychological care is to read. There are many books for children who are trying to navigate the tumultuous waters of divorce. The following a list of books for children to learn about divorce and how it might affect them.
A Heart With Two Homes by Epperson, Monica
Charlie Anderson by Abercrombie, Barbara
Taxi Taxi. Little Brown by Best, Cari Continue reading