Sometimes we don’t have the words for what we are feeling. And other times there is so much emotional turmoil that we can’t think straight. Having books that express what we need to say but can’t can be incredibly helpful. Reading the words of others who have been through what we’re going through now can be immensely therapeutic.
The following list of books might be useful for parents who are going through a divorce. They offer not only personal support but also support in parenting children during such a tumultuous time.
The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart by Constance R. Ahrons
This author shows couples how they can move beyond the confusing and sometimes terrifying early stages of breakup. This book also reveals how to deal with the transition from one household to two and how to continue to meet the needs of children in that process.
Blended Family Advice by Shirley Cress Dudleya Dudley
This author is a licensed mental health professional counselor, with Masters’ degrees in marriage and family counseling and another in education, and who lives in a blended family herself. As an author, speaker and family coach to individuals, she teaches new couples how to parent children of blended families. She helps couples work through the sabotage that ex-spouses can engage in, which might feel like he or she is ruining your new relationship. She also helps new blended families create a sense of unity.
Children of Divorce: A Developmental Approach to Residence and Visitation by Mitchell Baris and Carla Garrity
Caught in the Middle: Protecting the Children of High Conflict Divorce by Mitchell Baris and Carla Garrity
This book is highly useful in difficult divorces that might be leaving its effects on children. It also provides concrete strategies for minimizing the damage.
Back in Control by Gregory Bodenhamer
This is a parenting book for those who feel out of control with their children especially during the traumatic experience of divorce.
Parenting Teenagers by Denkmeyer and McKay
This is a guidebook for improving parent-teen relationships based on a particular method called STEP/teen (Systematic Training for Effective Parenting of Teens). It is structured like a classroom textbook, including summaries and tests at the end of each chapter.
Parents’ Handbook by Don Dinkmeyer Sr.
This book is also based on the STEP (Systematic Training for Effective Parenting of Teens) philosophy. It is a handbook offering clear and effective philosophy about child training.
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Farber and Mazlish
This is a basic step-by-step guide on how parents can communicate with their children. The use of cartoons and practice exercises help make this book effective, fun, and interactive.
The Parents’ Book About Divorce by Richard A. Gardner, M.D.
This book provides extensive support for the many issues that arise when parents attend to their children’s reactions to separation and divorce. It gives detailed descriptions of potential concerns and how to effectively manage the problems that arise.
Between Parent and Child by Hiam Ginott
This practical guide for talking to children and how to effectively respond to their behavior. It is clearly written, gives specific advice, and offers basic principles for raising children.
Between Parent and Teenager by Hiam Ginott
In this book, the author offers straightforward advice about conflicts, communication, and understanding between parents and young adults.
Interventions for Children of Divorce by William Hodges
This book is intended to provide mental health professionals, lawyers and judges with principles for working with children of divorce. At the same time, it is also a valuable reference for parents. It touches on a wide range of areas related to divorce, and focuses on the legal aspects that affect families.
The New Creative Divorce by Mel Kantzler and Patricia Kantzler
The primary author of this book has led divorce seminars and has experienced divorce himself. He talks about coping with the trauma of divorce and the different phases one goes through in the process. He gives life after divorce an optimistic look by framing it as a renewal of life as a single person.
For parents who are going through a divorce, this list of books can be supportive for the whole family.