It is difficult to navigate your family through a divorce without leaving someone scathed and hurting. It is, however, not impossible, and with the proper preparation parents can make a divorce into a positive event rather than something catastrophically devastating for their children. Ease the transition for adults and children alike by reading up on advice such as the following.
3 Quick Tips
First, keep in mind that every family is different. No two people are completely the same, and when more than two people are involved, things can sometimes get messy, and even more quickly can they get ugly. Staying patient, calm, and flexible throughout can help smooth the path towards building a new future together as a different family.
- Encourage Open Discussions
Openness is extremely important for ensuring that everyone in the family is being heard and that all concerns and needs are being met. Encourage open discussions at places like dinner tables and living room get-togethers with lines of communication genuinely open between not only children but also the parents.
- Keep Adult Conflict off the Table
It may be difficult, but do your best to keep adult frustrations and arguments away from children as much as possible. Conversations between parents that exhibit unstable behavior or inappropriate emotional reactions can lead children to be confused and frightened about their future.
- Expect Resistance
Do not immediately give in to despair when your children exhibit resistance to the new turn of events, especially with new spouses or relationships. Be patient and willing to listen, and remember that your children do not see the world the same way as you do.
Parenting is hard enough as it is without throwing divorce into the mix. However, divorce does not need to be the catalyst that splinters your family into pieces. Rather, with the right techniques and a positive attitude, a divorce can be an opportunity to teach children about adult relationships through modeling how adults should handle difficulties and trials in a way that is optimistic and beneficial.